Here’s How Trauma Can Impact Your Relationships
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Become an AdvocateIf we slip into feelings of self-blame, it’s going to be hard to feel confident in our ability to manage other challenges in the future. Particularly in relationships, we may feel less capable of solving interpersonal conflicts, we may struggle to manage disagreements, and we may feel overwhelmed by the “work” that comes with maintaining close bonds with others. Trauma tricks us into feeling like nobody else will ever understand what we have gone through. It’s important for trauma recovery to challenge these beliefs and find safe spaces where we can truly be authentic and open about what we’ve gone through.
Finally, trauma can wreak havoc on our emotional regulation skills. Emotional regulation refers to our ability to effectively manage and respond to a wide spectrum of emotions, including intense emotions like anger or deep sadness. We may be more likely to cancel plans with our friends, we may need to ask for more patience from others, or we may need to restructure our everyday routines. Please don’t feel guilty about these life changes. These are natural adjustments that you may need to make following trauma. It’s perfectly okay (and responsible) to create lifestyle changes if needed to maximize your healing process.
No matter what you experience, it’s important to recognize that your relationships may be affected due to trauma symptoms – NOT character flaws. You should not blame yourself. You should not feel guilty or ashamed. You deserve healthy relationships that make you feel secure and connected with others. It takes time to heal from trauma, but working on your trauma recovery and learning to trust others again can help you regain your sense of social connection. Rebuilding relationships and discovering new ways to connect is worthwhile and possible with practice, patience, and time.