Surviving a traumatic injury or witnessing a loved one go through a traumatic injury can be extremely overwhelming, and it can change our behavior going forward. Individuals diagnosed with paralysis and their family members know this firsthand. We may develop behaviors that served us well at the time but now hinder our ability to form healthy relationships or cope with stressors in a more adaptive way. These new, learned behaviors are considered trauma responses.
Let’s talk about some examples.
Defensiveness. Sometimes being very quick to defend yourself can be tied to your past trauma. For example, if you felt helpless during your traumatic injury that led to paralysis, you may have a tendency to be on high alert and hypervigilant of your surroundings now. If this feels familiar, remember that your trauma is valid, and it is understandable that you might feel this way. Healing might include practicing mindfulness and social skills to help you feel safe and relieved from the burden of having to defend yourself.
Over-Analyzing. Sometimes when we over-analyze, it comes from our past trauma of being negatively impacted by a sudden life disruption. You might over-analyze because you are trying to prepare for every possible outcome today, so you are not caught off guard like you were in the past. Healing from this kind of trauma might include practicing radical acceptance and letting go of control, which is certainly not easy, but it may help you feel less anxious.
Low Distress Tolerance. When people experience trauma, their central nervous system is hurt, and sometimes it can make people feel less capable of managing other distressing experiences, even those to a lesser degree. For example, if you feel defeated by past trauma, you may also feel defeated in other parts of your life. Healing from this kind of trauma might include practicing distress-tolerance skills such as those associated with dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) and rebuilding self-confidence and belief in your capabilities again.